The female condom is bigger than a male condom, but don’t worry: it’s not uncomfortable when you insert it correctly. If you can use a tampon, you can probably use a female condom.
How to put in a female condom:
- Check the expiration date on the package, and then open it carefully.
- The female condom comes already lubricated, but you can add more lube if you want. You can also add spermicide.
- Relax and get into a comfortable position. Standing with one foot on a chair, lying down, or squatting are common faves — kind of like how you’d put in a tampon.
- Squeeze together the sides of the inner ring at the closed end of the condom and slide it into your vagina like a tampon.
- Push the inner ring into your vagina as far as it can go, up to your cervix. Make sure it’s not twisted.
- Pull out your finger and let the outer ring hang about an inch outside the vagina. You’re good to go!
- Guide your partner’s penis into the opening of the condom, making sure it doesn’t slip to the side between the condom and your vaginal walls.
- To use the female condom for anal sex, remove the inner ring and insert the condom into your anus with your finger, leaving the outer ring hanging out.
How to remove a female condom:
- After sex, twist the outer ring (the part that’s hanging out) to keep semen (cum) inside the pouch.
- Gently pull it out of your vagina or anus, being careful not to spill any semen.
- Throw it away in the trash (never flush any kind of condom, because it can clog your toilet).
- Female condoms are not reusable — use a new one every time you have sex.
It’s totally normal for the female condom to move around a little bit during sex, but the penis should be completely surrounded by the condom at all times. Stop if the penis slips out of the condom into your vagina, or if the outer ring gets pushed into your vagina. If your partner didn’t ejaculate (cum) yet, gently remove the condom and put it back in place.
If your partner did ejaculate outside the female condom near your vulva or into your vagina — and you’re not using another method of birth control — you can still prevent pregnancy with emergency contraception (the morning-after pill). Emergency contraception can prevent pregnancy up to five days after unprotected sex.
One of the coolest things about the female condom is you can put it in ahead of time, before foreplay and sex, so you don’t have to interrupt the action when it’s time to get busy. Your partner can even get in on the fun and insert the condom for you.